Swinger Terms

Are you curious about getting into the swinger community but are not familiar with the swinger lingo that other couples and singles use. Here is a breakdown of swinger terms that is used in the lifestyle.

What is a swinger? Swingers can be couples (married or not) or singles.

Couples tend to be in love with each other, and only "share" each other sexually with others. Sometimes this means "swapping wives" sometimes it means "group sex".

Single swingers generally despise the dating process and would rather meet at swinger gatherings or with couples seeking a single where it is acceptable and in some cases expected that sex can/will occur on the spot with whomever they meet and feel attracted to.

In the swinger world, HWP means height weight proportionate. It's used in place of specific numbers, and some claim it should be interpreted to mean that one is higher on the weight scale than lower.

Full swap
full swap is sex with another couple where both couples swap partners, such as the guy from one couple with the girl from the other couple and vice-versa. This is often done in the same room but applies also when separate rooms are involved.

Soft swap
To share spouses/mates with another to the point of digital and/or oral sex only. Soft swap also applies when only the females do the swapping with other females when couples meet.

GG or Girl-Girl
Girl-Girl is where just the women play and the men watch, and/or join their partners, but do not have any interaction with the other person’s partner.

Same Room
If someone says they are interested in "Same Room" this may mean they are interested in Full Swap Same Room, or it may mean they are interested in having sex with their partner in the same room another couple is having sex and watching each other.

A “bull” is a guy that is just for casual sex with a female. Either single, or part of a couple. Men that are considered "Bulls" are typically well endowed.

A Unicorn refers to a single woman in the Lifestyle. They are called Unicorns because they are pretty rare, and many have never seen one!

MFM stands for Male, Female, Male. 2 men with 1 woman in a threesome. FMF stands for Female, Male, Female. 2 women with 1 man in a threesome.

Safe word or phrase
A way to politely communicate with your partner that you are uncomfortable with the situation or you are ready to leave. i.e. “I need to use the bathroom.”

Hot Wife
A Hot Wife is a wife that sets up casual sex dates with other men. Typically she or her date will take photos and send them to the interested couple’s husband.

Hall Pass
This means that one of the individuals has permission to play on his or her own from their partner.

These are people that enjoy having sex while other people watch and are not necessarily Swingers.

These are people that enjoy watching others have sex and are not necessarily Swingers.

Bi - Sexuality is very common in the Lifestyle with women. Not only is it socially acceptable, but it is encouraged. Bi - Sexuality with men is typically not socially acceptable and not very common on the surface.

Tri - Sexual
Tri - Sexuality is commonly used to refer to a person who will “try” anything sexually.

Top & Bottom
These are terms that are more common in the Gay community, but occasionally come up with Swingers especially if the Male is bi-sexual. Top means you are the "Giver", and bottom means you the "Receiver."

Squirting is Female Ejaculation.

Newbies are people new to the Lifestyle, or to a Lifestyle club or resort.

Vanilla refers to something that is non-Lifestyle. For example, a Vanilla Club, Vanilla Friends or Party.

Private Adventure
Term used to describe nudist and/or swinging lifestyle that does not draw attention in a negative way.

DP - Double Penetration.
One girl, two guys, but only one vagina! Solution? One penis in the Vagina the other in the Butt.

Bare Back
Bare Back would refer to having intercourse without the use of a condom. This is generally frowned upon in the Lifestyle.

Group Sex

Is a group of people all having sex. This is what most Vanilla people think swingers do every Saturday night; however, it is rare occurrence. Swinging typically consists of two or three couples. Remember, if you come upon a Group situation you still must ask permission to join.

Off Premise

An Off Premise Club or Event is an event where sexual activates do not take place at the event. These events typically take place at Hotels at Meet & Greets. These events also normally sell alcohol.

On Premise
An On Premise Club or Event is where sexual activities take place at the event. If a swingers club is On-Premise typically it is also BYOB. On Premise Swingers clubs have
areas or rooms set up for people to have sex or "play".

House Party
A house party is a where a member of the Lifestyle hosts an on premise party at their house.

Swingers Club / Social Club
Swingers Clubs are either On Premise or Off Premise. There are swingers clubs in most countries of the world. These clubs are a safe place for people to meet and explore their sexuality. These clubs are typically NOT high pressure environments, as some would suspect.