About us

Welcome to The Sex Matchmaker. We are a swingers website that has been running since 2010. This is a swinger website run by swingers. My hubby and I have been swingers for the past 10 years and love the interaction with other couples and select singles. 

Everyone is welcome to join. It is free. One day we will likely make it a paid website, but for now, there are no hidden fees. This site is absolutely free, and you can message, view profiles of other couples and singles.

Please respect everyone on here. We are a great, fun community of people and let’s keep it that way. We have thousands of members from Canada, USA, Australia and the UK.

What is Swinging?

Swinging, sometimes referred to as the adult lifestyle, is “non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. The phenomenon of swinging may be seen as part of the sexual revolution of recent decades, which occurred after the upsurge in sexual activity made possible by the prevalence of safer sex practices during the same period.

Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term has been criticized as androcentric (taking a male-oriented point of view) and inaccurately describing the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part.

Swinging terms :

  • Soft swinging: having sex with a partner while two or more other people perform sex acts in the immediate vicinity.
  • Soft swap: having oral sex with someone other than one’s partner. Often a type of swinging that new couples choose before eventually trying full swap, although many couples stay “soft swap” for personal or safety related reasons.
  • Full swap: having penetrative sex with someone other than one’s partner. Although this is the commonly understood definition of swinging, it is not necessarily the most common type.
  • Group sex: An all-inclusive term for activities involving multiple partners in the same vicinity.

Swinging activities

Typically, swinging activities occur when a married or otherwise committed couple engages in sexual activity with another couple, multiple couples, or a single individual. These acts can occur in the same room (often called same room swinging) though different or separate room swinging does occur. On these occasions, swingers will often refer to sex as play and sex partners as playmates.

Occasionally, one party of a couple will not be interested in joining the swinging lifestyle. This party is typically referred to as the “hold-out” while the other party is referred to as the “desirous party”. Thus, the “desirous party” is the one party of a swinging couple who seeks to be in the lifestyle as opposed to the other party who does not.

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